Getting married and staying happily married are just an ideal life we all imagine. Marriage is the most sacred and auspicious of all relationships we would have in our lives. Finding the right man, finding the perfect relation and getting married till eternity is what we all look for. Marriage is an institution which requires constant effort from both ends to stay happy. Two people must be enriching and compensating for each other to be able to lead a happy and enjoyable life.
But marriage comes with its own challenges. Staying in love with your partner, and falling back and forth in love makes the marriage a constant roller coaster ride. It is just impossible to not have any fights, challenges and ups and downs in the wedding. And to rise above them and make it work is what results in a great marriage. We all face problems, and we all are at constant dare to keep up the marriage as hearty and joyous as it began with. Let us know some common marriage problems and how to cope up with them
Some common marriage problems we all face:
Marriage begins with all smiles for both the people in love and as time passes it starts experiencing challenges. The same routine becomes a problem after a few years into a marriage. And the two people despite being in love start drifting away. Some common marriage problems are:
1- Not getting ample space:
When we are in love, we constantly need to be with that one person all the time. So much so, that we are almost suffocating the other person. Everyone needs their own space and time. Even in a happy marriage, the most important key is to give and find space for own. As a couple, you must respect your partners own time and not suffocate him or her
2- Holding grudges against one another:
After a while, in marriage, you tend to have fights and arguments. Sometimes we hold grudges against one another which results in big problems later on. Holding grudges and constantly reminding of the issues makes a marriage lose its charm and auspice. Learn to forget and let go, as the more you hold on to the things that hurt you; the more it is going to affect your marriage
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3- Not communicating well:
Any relation, to be able to stay happy and successful needs constant communication. A problem in marriage occurs when you stop communicating with each other. Communicating doesn’t mean just talking, but rather sharing how you feel and why you want anything that you do. Communicating well can help in resolving the most critical of issues in marriage also peacefully and happily
4- Placing individual goals above couple interests:
After a while, into marriage, we may take up our own career goals or other interests and place them above our couple interests. Like sharing a meal together is taken up by a meeting at work, or going out to party with your partner gets taken over by your favorite TV show at that time. These things only exaggerate the problems in the marriage. You need to place the couple interests above your selfish needs
5- Intimacy issues:
Physical attraction may fade after a while into marriage. And to keep the spark and ignition on, you need to reinvent ways to stay intimate. Don’t forget your sneaking from everyone to find time with each other moments. After marriage, you may not experience the same intimacy in the routine, so try and go ahead with special dates, cruise, trips to wonderful destinations and more adventurous getaways. Intimacy is everywhere, and you just need to find what clicks when for you both
6- Infidelity:
Infidelity by far is the most atrocious of all problems in a marriage. For someone who loves her partner, finding infidelity on their partners part is not just heart breaking but no acceptable at all. There can be no resolution and forgiveness for infidelity but trying not to find this situation is what you can do well. Stay appealing, smart and fun to be with; even years into marriage so that your partner has no motive to seek love beyond
7- Financial issues:
Every one sees ups and downs in life. Financial crisis and issues are very common. And these put the relationship at a very vulnerable stage. Though it is very challenging planning ahead for the rainy days is the key to staying happy even during financial crunch
8- Placing family over spouse:
If your parents or friends take over your spouse, then you sure are calling for real problems in your marriage. Never let anything or anyone take the lead if you wish for a successful marriage. Do not ignore your spouse. Respect each other and stay in love for, a successful marriage is all about giving priority to each other.
9- Lack of appreciation and interest in each other:
It is very important to keep appreciating and liking each other and your efforts. Showing interest in each other and appreciating each other all the time shows how much you care and love each other.
10- Too busy in their own lives:
After a few years into a marriage, monotony shows up. We get busy in our own life and forget the buttons of spending time with each other. This definitely creates a big problem in a marriage.
11- Totally consumed by technology:
Technology has taken over 80% of our day, and we are so much consumed by the Internet that we forget everything around us. The digital age has got us into social, emotional and physical challenges too. Facebook, Whatsapp, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest and the rest are more charming and delightful then talking to each other. This definitely creates a lot more challenges.
12- Life stages issue:
We all go through ups and downs in life, a few years into marriage can cause monotony which is natural. Some challenges of life stages are difficult but can be avoided by a little effort from our part.
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13- Stress and anxiety:
Too much stress and anxiety about anything that affects you both as a couple are definitely problem creators.
14- Monotony and boredom:
Monotony and boredom can kill the very essence of marriage. Therefore it is very important to constantly reinvent each other. Finding passion and intimacy must not become a task, rather they must be an organic part of your daily life.
15- Jealousy:
It is human to be jealous, but jealousy should not take ahead your love and admiration for each other. Keep the negative feelings away and try to enjoy more and more driving with each other.
The about compilation on Top 15 of the most common marriage problems, is to help and inspire people. Be true to each other, Love unconditionally, keep your passion alive, communicate well and never preach infidelity. Cherish your marriage as the most important relation in your life. Share ahead and keep writing us, we love hearing from you!
Minu Manisha
