First date is all about excitement, curiosity, anxiety and fun. The thrill of meeting him the first time as an official date. Or the idea of dating your friend until, but more than that now is much more challenging than anything else. You want to be the perfect of whatever you show up and you don’t wish to miss any important aspect of being wonderful.
Things not to do on a first date:
We already know what to do on a first date and how to make everything special but we often forget the strict no no parts here. Never to indulge in any of the as they not only ruin your relationship but also are a set back to your own morale too. Some of the things not to do on a first date to keep it going to second, third and so on include:
1- Do not show up late:
This is the biggest faux pas, showing up late for your most exciting first date. Be careful of the time and if you are to reach separately it is better to set an alarm. Be careful of the traffic and take a few minutes margin and reach before time to be relaxed and comfortable for your big first date.
2- Don’t be attached to your phone all through your date:
This is very bad for if you want more dates to with your date to continue further. Checking the phone constantly and seeming distracted in it is almost showing no interest in the person sitting next to you which is a big no.
3- Do not smoke or get high when you are on a date:
Definitely a big turn off, getting high or reaching your date after having consumed too much alcohol or beginning to smoke at the table itself is not what you wish to see at the first date. Infact not at any date will these be considered acceptable. Never try to take these as being cool, that are a big disaster for your first date
4- Do not be in a hurry to order:
Sit and relax, don’t show up hungry and ready to eat anything sooner than later. Specially when you are on your first date it is better to let the other one decide when to order. Showing too much interest in food kills the agenda of knowing each other and sharing some cozy moments together.
5- Don’t order too messy food:
Foods like a double sized burger, an extra cheese pizza or spaghetti with lots of sauce is not the right choice. Keep it simple and easy to eat. A salad or a grilled cheese can be wonderful. Or even a lasagna or rice bowl wold work well in keeping you sane throughout your meal
6- Do not eat garlic or onion:
You don’t want to smell of rats when you are saying good bye. Keep a mouth freshener or spray handy for soon after meals
7- Don’t talk about marriage or babies just yet:
Its just your first date with the man and you don’t even know whether theres a second one in line. So don’t fool yourself by talking about things which are not even in imagination yet. You will scare him away if you attempt to do so, which by any chance is not the agenda
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8- Don’t take about your past breakups or relationships:
First date is just a warm cozy and mushy ice breaker. No one looks for serious issues or discussions or even explanations for that matter. Your past will be discussed eventually but not just yet. This is compelling someone, and we don’t want to be the one compelling.
9- Don’t be too pricey when the check comes:
Don’t fight to pay it all, but offer to split or just keep the tip at least. No one said its just the man who has to pay it all. He may refuse or allow to share but you don’t have to shy away from offering.
10- Check on your drinks:
You don’t want to puke on the dinner table or fall down when you stand for the cab. Keep the cocktails to bare minimum and don’t finish them all.
11- Never share all your dreams in just an hour of date:
First date is not the time to share how you see yourself getting married or having kids or your idea of a perfect life. This just scares the person you went out with. Keep the discussions to a minimum on too personal side but share other humorous conversations.
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12- Don’t ever talk about other guys on your first date:
You may have a million more guy friends but you don’t have to share all the details at this point. Don’t be too interested or too disinterested. Just be normal and try to show respect and admiration.
13- Don’t talk about religion, politics, exes, or abortion:
Everyone has their own ideologies and first date is not the right time to share these strong beliefs. These can come in later when you get along well. Keep the conversations simple and funny. Try to make it an interesting first date rather a debated or a heated argument
14- Don’t talk about yourself the whole time:
Remember its more of a conversation than a monologue or an FBI investigation. First date is meant to be easy and keep it short when speaking. Just to the point not much details yet
15- Look and smell disgusting:
Don’t forget to put fragrance and wear clean and ironed dress. First impressions do exist and they take you a long way.
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16- Don’t force the good bye kiss:
Every thing has to be organic and not planned. You cant plan how you hold when you say good bye or whether at all you would shake hands also. Keep it natural and follow the flow. If a kiss is to happen then it will and if more is planned the so be it. Don’t force it as it doesn’t speak highly of you
17- Don’t forget the basic compliments:
Use compliments like you look great or this color suits you or you smell wonderful to show your interest and admiration. Just don’t overdo but one or two lines are good for a first date
18- Don’t bitch about anyone you both know:
Gossiping or bitching is not what you do at your first date with your guy. Specially when you both know the same person, maybe he likes her or him and doesn’t like you being judgmental
19- Keep your quirky humor down:
First date is not the time to be quirky or high on this kind of humor. You still don’t know how well he takes the jokes you intend to
20- Never rush to a second date plan on the first date itself:
Allow him some time and let him take the lead for asking you on a second date. You must not show so much eagerness about the second date that you forget enjoying the first date itself
The above compilation on What not to do on a first date, is to help you enjoy your first date with your crush in utmost wonderful ways. This isn’t the time to decide the names of your babies so keep it simple and short. Be sure to keep yourself as natural as you are rather than making up your style and behavior.
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