Romance is to strike of, rings and kisses are to be exchanged. But ,Love is in the air and at the same time are the Heebie – Jeebies. Right? Well, good that you are snowed under running about to set things up for your wedding. Otherwise the wedding anxieties would drive you crazy. Oh wait! It already is!
A message to all the soon TO BE BRIDES out there – JUST SAY EASSEEEE!
After all, it is your wedding and you are supposed to be in LOVE LAND enjoying and dreaming there(that’s what fantasy says). Conversely, it is a reflex action to be anxious right before you step into the commitment zone and wanting the wedding arrangements to be on point( this is reality).
For the most part, every couple is anxious and you can’t let that stress be visible on your face. Thus, you just need some pep talks and ways to overcome this anxiety before and during wedding. Comfort yourself by reading on for some tips!
Ways To Overcome Wedding Anxiety – Take It Easy!
No 1 – Take It As It Comes
All the brides, you don’t have to forcibly put a full stop to your anxiousness. It is an emotion, so just experience it now so that later you can look your best with no stress on your wedding day.
Remember being anxious is a trade mark for all brides, whatsoever be your nature. When you feel anxious with the crowd or everyone looking at you. Just smile and let your feelings take its own time to disappear.
You just have to take the feeling as it comes and when you do that, trust me you won’t even know how it went by. Just breathe and pull it through.
No 2 – Engage In Good Self-Care
Lucky are the to be brides! Everyone takes good care of the bride. Whether that’s pampering the brides skin or giving the bride some good marriage advice for a successful marriage. It all comes down to how much are you taking care of yourself to manage your anxiety.
Have you even begun?
You need to keep pacifying yourself while you talk to ‘YOU’. Primarily, understand what’s making you anxious? Is it the wedding arrangements, the groom or the fear of how would your life be later? Once you recognize your fear, finding a solution won’t take long.
Thus, talk to yourself and engage in mentally taking good care of yourself.
No 3 – Reach Out To Your ‘To Be Husband’
What other than discussing wedding anxieties can be a great start to knowing your partner better. Even if you already know him, you get to test him here.
The best person to talk to about your stress is your partner. Tell him what’s making you nervous and then you never know how he could surprise you and take all stress away. You will only know if you are feeling better when you vent it out.
No 4 – Go For A Holiday Before Wedding
When in stress just take a holiday and re-start. Is your mind telling you to go for a Solo trip? Perfect! Just go for it before your marriage.
Holidays are refreshing and may be once you are back you will be able to open your mind to the anxieties and welcome it to be there as much as it wants to. You will be revived and stronger to let the anxieties sink in and go away. You won’t feel low.
How will a holiday before wedding even help you? It will calm you down, you enjoy other beautiful things and you will feel happier.
No 5 – Don’t Wish To Wear The Crown Of Perfection
When are we most anxious? When we are afraid that things might not go as expected or the fear of failing to be your best. Correct?
So when you are anxious before your wedding, it means that you either want to be perfect or worried of something that might go imperfect.
Please understand, what is in your control is the amount of efforts you can make. On the other hand, if you want people to be pleased then you cannot be perfect and it is okay not to be perfect, the world will not come to an end.
Yes, this is easier said than done. We cannot let things just be because marriage is a big affair and at the same time it is important to keep a balance of your emotions.
So, stay confident and be who you are. Further, stay sure that whatever you are doing might be imperfect, however, it is right. Feel convinced from the inside out and then walk out of your room to get married.
Stop running after perfection and keep aside the fear of being judged. You will just do well.
No 6 – Workout And Relax Everyday Before The Big Day
Exercising and meditating are two useful ways to beat stress hovering in your mind. When you sweat out, your body and mind feel lighter. Thereafter, sitting in meditation can help soothe your mind and you learn how to overcome all the wedding anxieties.
What best to do? Pick up an activity that interests you. Don’t choose to exercise for the sake of it. Only when you do what you love it will make complete sense. You cannot relax yourself by investing time in an activity you are forced to do.
To mention a few ideas, dance if you love dancing, go out for a walk, hit the gym or go out jogging in fresh air. Besides, meditating after exercising will tame your mind to keep distractions, anxiety and all fears away. As days go by, anxieties will start to go away.
No 7 – Stay Glued To All Your Happy Times Together
The best way to divert your mind when anxious is by thinking of something nice or laughing through some of the hilarious moments.
This period when you are supposed to stay busy imagining happy things with your partner, you are anxious. Don’t miss out on this beautiful phase, it won’t ever come back in your life. It is unfair if you are missing out on little things.
To feel better, think of times you both went on a vacation, relive those days when the two of you laughed hard and similar such experiences will keep you so occupied that you will forget the troublesome wedding anxieties.
No 8 – Talk To Brides Who Were Anxious Too
If you want answers to some of your questions, you must talk to someone who has been through what you are into right now. They are the best one’s to guide and answer things to you.
Having said, talk to your relatives or friends who have been brides in the past and know from them the mantra to beat wedding anxieties. Given that everyone has their way of handling anxieties, knowing from women who were anxious brides like you is always good.
Their response will be a good advice for you or if not anything else, you will at least feel better to know that you are not the only one going through this.
No 9 – Pay Close Attention To Your Lifestyle
For any bride, the days before marriage are the most crucial. Given that stress and planning both have to be taken care of, you need to pay close attention to keeping yourself healthy.
A good way to handle wedding anxieties is by eating good food and sleeping well. Food will give you the necessary energy to handle your anxieties and a good night’s sleep will help you get the rest you need.
What else can you do? Don’t put yourself in situations where you might fall sick and don’t risk disturbing your cycle. You cannot afford to feel ill during your wedding. You have to look happy and active. So, do things that are healthy and avoid things that will make you feel unhealthy.
No 10 – Be Well Prepared With Your Plans
Before wedding every girl is busy running about looking at arrangements or keeping things ready for herself. In a hurry, there are chances to miss out on important things and when it hits on your head in the last minute, it can make you anxious.
Therefore, your only solution is to plan your arrangements. Plan your next day a day in prior. Whether that’s shopping or booking a banquet hall etc. Good planning and preparation will not give you any last minute stress.
To feel well-prepared, you need to think you are getting married much before your wedding day. This way, you are mentally prepared and there are no chances of delaying anything during your wedding.
No 11 – Appreciate Your Wedding, Don’t Compare
Feeling wedding anxiety isn’t always about the fear of arrangements or what will happen after wedding. It even comes when you set expectations in making arrangements for your wedding after looking at your friends or family. So, that fear of wanting things to be like the others can be quite tormenting for your mind.
Always appreciate how well you are doing to make the wedding a grand one. Moreover, your fiance and the families are constantly making efforts to work things out.
So, if you don’t want to feel anxious, avoid comparing your marriage to another. Let the world do what they want. Lear to feel happy in what you are doing and only then you can enjoy your wedding.
No 12 – Believe That You Are Going To Look Gorgeous
Being sure and believing you are beautiful is really important to face the wedding occasion. Did you know that even when you are under-confident about your looks you can feel the wedding anxieties?
Yes, you feel anxious if you think I am too health for the dress, my makeup always looks ugly on me, my jewellery doesn’t make me glow or I don’t think I am going to look nice on my wedding day.
Just take it easy, you should know that every bride looks special on her wedding day because the joy of being one with someone is clearly visible.
Thus, know for yourself that you are gorgeous the way you are and you will nail it on your big day.
No 13 – Don’t Get Affected With Little Things
In an occasion like marriage, there will be a lot of discussion and confusion. It is bound to happen and everything is not in your hands.
So, if you don’t want to get affected with little things like who is going to come for my wedding, will everyone make it in time, why is Aunt not appreciating my dress, will everyone be prepared with a wedding speech or not. Keep all this off your mind and just go with the flow.
Certain things are not in your control and you just have to let it be. Why break your head? Just be happy and enjoy these happy pre-wedding days.
Is It Normal To Have Anxiety Before Wedding?
The answer is, yes it is normal to have wedding anxieties given that it is special day and you want all the invited guests to have fun. Couples tend to take it too serious because it is a once in lifetime memory.
The biggest reason for couples feeling anxious before the wedding is that they expect perfection on that day. Above all, your own wedding does make your blood run cold given that you are starting a new beginning with someone and you want your wedding to go well.
Conclusion
Now you know how wedding anxieties can be and what you must do to handle this emotion. The best part about the wedding day is that you won’t even think about these anxieties that almost ate you up. In that moment you will be so delighted that you will give it your best shot.
So breathe, keep the planning on and have a gala time during this pre-wedding time!
