When you are looking for a long term relationship you cannot be in the flight of fantasy and forget the fact that for a relationship to grow, get better and get stronger, it is not just your romantic dates and the x-factor in a person that will help the two of you go a long way. All that will matter in the end is how you co-operate with your partner.
Every woman should love, understand, care and be there for her man. Having said, would you be able to relate with the fact that maturity has an upper hand if you want to peacefully take your relationship ahead? Absolutely! it is like an icing in the relationship. Every woman should be mature in a relationship so that the two of you can tour through your love story with all happiness.
In this article, you will understand the plain sailing yet crucial ways to be mature in a relationship. Here is all that you need to know!
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Tips To Be A Matured Woman In A Relationship
Once you get a hang of the tips on how to be a matured woman in the relationship, on your own you will be able to discover how to implement the tips to spark the maturity in your relationship as well.
Tip No 1 – Are Both Of You On The Same Page?
Being in a relationship is awesome, while the two of you are together it is essential for you to understand if he is the one you want for your entire life or not ask yourself if you are sure of him and asks him the same question, let him do the self -talk too.
Coming together is easy but to hold on is not as easy as it was at the start. Therefore, think it over wisely, know where the two of you stand in the relationship.
Get clarity on whether you both are ready, sure and happy about the relationship. This is the first thing you need to know and if you can crack this then being matured in a relationship will not be difficult.
Tip No 2 – Respect Each Others Priorities
When you have tied the knot of being one then it has to prove in your actions as well. That being said, although the two of you are one now you are still different individuals from different worlds and there are possibilities that both of your priorities might or might not co-incide which is fine.
The real task is if you both are ready to understand each other’s priorities and are okay to live with those priorities without intruding in each other’s personal space or not. If you want to be a matured lady in the relationship, you would have to sit and talk about your priorities, know his as well and respect each other’s priorities. Do this if you have not done it so far, this is crucial for the longevity of your relationship.
Tip No 3 – Is It About ‘You & Me’ Or ‘Us’
We all love ourselves way too much and that is good, that love has to be there. Given the importance that you need to give yourself in the bargain do not make it all about ‘you’ when you have chosen a prince charming who has an integral place in your life, you have to consider what he loves, does not love, enjoys, is driven by or sensitive about. You have to be matured and understand that you cannot afford to make it ‘me-centric’ it has to be ‘us-centric’
You do not have to give up on your views and your part of the story, all you have to understand is the other side of the story as well. If you can manage through this well, you both are going to be the ‘happy-we’
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Tip No 4 – Practice The ‘Keep Calm’ Mantra In Bad Times
This tip may or may not be difficult for you based on the woman you are, if you are a hot balloon who just gets furiated and bursts out then this is going to be a big-time challenge for you. If your man is lucky that his girl is calm then this tip would be a cakewalk for you.
You would be in a place to understand him sometimes and sometimes you may not be able to understand him and it is vice-versa. Now, if you want maturity to be the driving factor then you better stay calm when things get beyond your understanding capacity.
To explain it further, if you feel that both of you are just blurting out non-sense and have lost the capacity to consider each other, then the best thing to do is to just walk away and take your time to calm down. Practice this mantra in bad times as there is no point in fighting over something that’s going to lead you nowhere.
Tip No 5 – Cling On To Good Times And Walk Past Bad Times
Makes absolute sense isn’t it? But we do exactly the opposite and this costs the lovely smiles that the lovely couple would have had discussing good times. In the bargain what couples do is open old chapters and start talking about everything unpleasant.
Therefore, now on walk past all the bad times and exhibit your maturity by having the heart to let go of the wrong, bad and disappointing moments.
Always look at the bright side of your togetherness so far, spend time in discussing the good times, if you tend to look back at the bad times, just look at it as a phase that the two of you learned from. Keep it this way, clinging to bad times is just pointless and it would only stop you from being happy in the present.
Tip No 6 – Here Him Out! What If He Is Making A Point?
It is never going to be easy in the relationship if you do not take a moment to listen. No matter how mad you are at him, if he has an explanation to give to you always hear him out whether it makes sense to you or not.
You never know but if you are listening to him to understand him then you are allowing a problem to get sorted out and at the same time if you are understanding him, he might be making a point from his side of the story. So always remember, just hear him out. When he sees this gesture of yours he would realise how well you know how to handle an issue.
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Tip No 7 – Bottling Up Your Feelings Is Absurd
In no way you are being matured in the relationship if you do not know how to voice out your concerns, there is relevance in being transparent and vocal about every little thing that you like or don’t like in your partner, ensure to put it across right.
If you bottle up what is playing at the back of your mind it can have a bad way of coming out and this could lead to bitterness in your relationship and you do not want that, isn’t it.
Always keep this stored in your head, never ever hide what you do not like, be clear and talk it out. You would also know if all this while what you felt was meaningful or baseless.
Tip No 8 – Love is not just about ‘Love-Making’
Love-Making is not doubted esctatic, you cannot forget the other elements. Come back, do not be so lost. That being said, it is essential that you also learn how to trust each other, stand up for each other through the roller coaster of life, be each other’s shoulder to lean on, give time to express love, care and gratitude.
When you have all these elements balanced well then your lovemaking is also going to be all the more great. Sign of a matured relationship is when the two people acknowledge each other, so you be matured as well as a spread that maturity in your relationship as well.
Tip No 9 – It Is Imperfect To Expect Perfection
We are all made of flaws and strengths, at times it is not possible to be accommodating in understanding flaws of the opposite person. Take a while and just consider yourself in that place, how would you feel if you are not accepted with your flaw given the fact that no one is perfect.
If you cannot accept that a relationship won’t be perfect nor will the two of you be it is always going to seem like a disappointing relationship. Accept that you have to survive through the imperfections and never let go of each other for little things.
Tip No 10 – Keep Reasonable Expectations
Expectations are the root cause of suffering, this says it all. You are going to suffer if you expect too much and on the other hand, you are going to burden your partner as well. Yes, have reasonable expectations such as basic time from your partner, his response on important decisions, ensuring that he is not taking you for granted etc. This would make sense. Excess expectations is going to create a crack in your bond. Do not do it! Stop right here!
Tip No 11 – Throw Away False Ego
If you have made a mistake be open about it and apologise, if you have not made a mistake and you have to apologise to set things right, just do it with an open heart. You would not get any smaller. At the same time, know the difference, do not let your partner take it for granted if you tend to apologise even when it is not your mistake. Know where to draw those lines.
If you hold on to false ego you are bringing a vacuum in your relationship which can just worsen things. Be mature and tackle situations with patience, if you have to be the one to make the first move, go ahead. Stop thinking, “why should I” instead think “why not me” you will be proud of yourself and you will learn that ego is nothing but a false attitude that will take you nowhere.
All in all, now you know how to be a matured woman in a relationship, you got all the tips that you needed and its all your call now. Try these tips and see if you can observe any maturity in yourself. Maturity in a relationship just helps you grow as a person and gives you a different perspective towards how to save your relationship.
Do not let go of your relationship that is worth a lifetime togetherness for little things, walk past the little things and strengthen your bond.
