Don’t be surprised if a guy who is in love with you is pretending that he doesn’t like you. You can call this strange action to be an inborn quality in men. There are a few men who cannot digest to admit that they are in love and have lost their heart to you. Is it their false ego or fear that’s stopping them? Well, you will know it as you go forward and discover the man better.
While some of those intelligent boys who like to show that there is no place for emotions in their life, they forget that their actions speak of how much they are in love and they just don’t want to admit it at any cost.On the other hand, could be that he genuinely doesn’t like you the special way and you have may be assumed it way too much.
You will know only after you read through this article and look at strong signs that clearly show how much he likes you and is just acting like he doesn’t.
Signs He Is Pretending Not To Like You
Clearly, understanding if a person likes you and is not admitting it or doesn’t like you is like cracking a hard nut.
Often your intuitions must be telling you that he likes me and for some reason he is not saying it. On the other hand, you might be feeling that may be I am over-thinking and he doesn’t like me.
In times of confusion, it is better to observe his behaviour keeping aside imaginative thoughts and before concluding what it is, always communicate with the guy and finally find out. Initially, you must look for signs, it is like doing a good homework.
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Ready to see how he is pretending that he doesn’t like you when he actually does?
Sign No 1 – Makes Time For You
When a guy likes you, he will not just give you time. But make time for you!
We make time for people who are important for us. Look at it otherwise, who has time in the world? We are either running about completing work or we want some personal ‘me time’.
If the guy is leaving aside something for you. Even though he denies it, he at least cares for you and you must be close to him.
This clearly doesn’t show that you are his world, but, you do have some place in his heart.
Sign No 2 – His Body Language Talks
A guy who pretends and doesn’t say it in words might be bad at hiding his body language. He finally shows that he likes you.
It is easy to identify the body language of a friend who is close to you and the one who is more like an acquaintance.
If the person is close, he/she will hug you, cry on your shoulder etc. Likewise, when he likes you and is not willing to say it, you will see him clinging to you for no reason.
Examples
- Hugs you tight when he sees you
- Holds your hand when he is feeling low
- Leans on your shoulder if he is tired
If he does this with other female friends, may be you are taking it wrong and if he does this only with you then you are special. Besides, the way he does it will also say it all. So, keep noticing him.
Sign No 3 – He Takes Interest In What You Like And Don’t
A guy will leave everything aside and ask you personal questions only when he thinks you are special.
If he hasn’t ever told you he loves you, but, he makes an effort to go deep and ask you questions on what you like or don’t. He is really bothered about you.
Examples
- If you are excited, he will be eager to know everything in detail and he will be quite the same when you are sad as well
- He will be there to hear you when you want to vent out frustration or pain
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Even a friend can take interest and go deep with knowing you better. However, if a guy likes you, he will make you feel more comfortable and you will just know it.
Sign No 4 – His Eyes Are On You And He Is Around
In love, men and women are obsessed with this thought of being around each other all the time.
Well, only a guy who has that pull for you will bother to notice your actions and be around by some means. Why would just another friend take so much effort.
Everyone has better and important things to do. If he is looking for chances to be around you then you are not dumb to not be understanding that.
Examples
- You catch him staring at you often
- When you notice him, he tries to hide
- He keeps checking on what time of the day are you free so that he can meet you
Sign No 5 – He Is Not Your Boyfriend And Behaves Like One
You will be knowing this better. There are people who behave like couples and they don’t feel that way for each other. While there are who behave like couple and they feel it. However, they just don’t say it out.
If the two of you have spent a long time together and he is differently protective and loving with you, he is certainly into you. Leave aside what the world says, you know what it feels like with him.
If the two of you have had that romantic eye contact or felt some special connection in this companionship, chances are that the two of you are in love.
Sign No 6 – He Will Make It Obvious That He Is After You
No matter how much we try and hide our feelings, ultimately it shows in the way we treat the one we love. Behaviour speaks volumes.
When he is pretending not to like you, all the more he will end up showing how much he does. Even if you ask him he will never accept that he is in love. As mentioned earlier his body language and the way he looks at you will make you feel the vibe.
Examples
- He stalks you on media and gets into details such as who commented and liked your posts. He always likes your posts
- He gets upset when you don’t respond to his calls or messages. The reaction is bad
- He will always look for a chance to appreciate you
- The day you look pretty, he would end up over admiring you
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Sign No 7 – He Pulls Your Leg
In a funny way he will let you know that he is in love and you won’t even understand. Well! If you are smart and a keen observer, you will catch it.
Guys are smart. They try to convey their message through a joke. For them it is easier to tease you and express their feelings rather than expressing their love openly. If he has done something like this ever, you got to understand that he loves you and just doesn’t want to admit.
Example
He may crack a joke at you saying “How would it be to date a foodie like you, I would have become a jumbo eating with you all day”. Here he is expressing his inner feeling that he wants to date you and doesn’t want to admit it ever.
It can also turn out that he is joking for real. Still, you never know!
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Sign No 8 – He Knows You The Best
When a man truly loves you he knows everything about you. Sometimes you will be surprised to see how he knows more than you know about yourself.
He might never tell you how much you mean to him but he will notice you just like your parents would have in childhood. It doesn’t necessarily mean that the person who knows you is in love with you. Could be that he cares like a good friend.
However, if he is taking too much trouble in knowing and understanding you, you got to be someone really special for him and don’t worry, he won’t say it!
Examples
- He will know when you are hungry
- He understands when you get mad
- He instantly knows things that can make you happy
Sign No 9 – He Does His Best To Look Perfect Around You
A man will want to be his best in front of a woman who is way too special for him. It goes without saying that he will do anything to appear the best.
You will just see it all nice and fancy. If you haven’t noticed it until now, start noticing! When he is around you, he wears amazing clothes and puts on an excellent perfume.
That’s his way of trying to grab your attention. What’s funny is that you weren’t even aware of his actions so far.
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Sign No 10 – He Lets You Know That His Girl Friends Are ‘Just Friends’
A person tends to stress over a particular point because he is trying to prove his part of the story and if he is doing the same with you, then he is trying to tell you something. Listen to it!
Couple of times when the two of you are having a conversation, if you see that he starts to get into details of his ‘just friendship’ with the other girls.
It could be that he is trying to tell you that he has you in mind and no one else can make him feel special as you do.
Sign No 11 – He Is Unnecessarily Jealous
When a man can get jealous for you, it is a sure sign that you are not just another person but special for him.
People who are in love feel jealous and they cannot control it even if they try hard. There are a few feelings that need not be spoken about, it is clearly seen.
If he is jealous over little things like you talking to another guy or some other guy complimenting you too much, then you need to understand that he has fallen for you.
When he gets jealous, he will start to act strange and try to make you feel jealous as well. He won’t be able to say how much it hurts him to see you with someone else and that reaction ends up coming out bad.
Sign No 12 – He Doesn’t Show But He Acts Protective
When a guy is totally into a woman, it is natural for him to be protective about her.
The fact that he doesn’t say what he feels might annoy you. Right? And what about what he doesn’t say but shows? If he likes you, he will always be like a shield around you.
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Examples
- He travels with you if he thinks you are unsafe
- He won’t hear anything against you from another person
- He keeps checking on you when you are unwell
- He is always there for you even if you expected it the least
Why Is He Pretending Not To Like You?
For the most part, most of us are scared to express our feelings. There are multiple reasons behind why we are scared, you must be wondering what’s his reason? Right?
Here are a list of reasons as to why he is pretending not to like you
- He is scared of commitments – either because he’s had a bad experience in the past or is unsure of what he feels.
- He thinks that you might not feel the same way for him.
- He doesn’t want to spoil friendship the two of you have.
- He doesn’t want to express that he loves you before you do.
- He feels being in a relationship can take too much of him emotionally.
Conclusion
The truth doesn’t hide for long and the same applies to his feelings. Let him pretend as much as he wants. He is going to get it out of him and express his love for you someday. Provided he is not feeling helpless. You never know what exactly is his reason for not being able to express.
Having gone through the signs, if you want a definite answer and be sure, he is the only person to tell you the actual truth. Shoot your questions at the right time and find out if he is pretending that he doesn’t like you or he really doesn’t.
