Wedding planning can be tiring and challenging and not just physically but it drains you emotionally as well. And there are times you just can’t take enough of it, and everything seems getting on your nerves. Then people around you start referring you as a Zilla, and you most certainly believe that is the case.
It is normal to want everything best for your wedding and all your efforts and frenzy is inherent when you are set for a wedding celebration. Suddenly amid nowhere you find yourself being ignored, your fiancee as well, pretends to be busy and your parents have never been so indifferent ever, so how is that even possible. Well! These are all the signs that you are turning into bridezilla, and there will be fewer and fewer people coming up to you if this continues. Bridezilla is nothing but the worst version of you post extreme wedding stress which is self-inflicted.
Signs You’re Turning into Bridezilla:
Being ignored by your fiancee, your friends are not answering your calls anymore and your parents couldn’t have been unhappier than you; well we are sorry to break the news to you; but these are the signs you are a bridezilla. As much as we try, but it is difficult to have everything as planned and perfect as you desired. The minor hicks must not make you turn into a finicky bridezilla. So look at the below signs that you are turning into bridezilla and revamp yourself to change the course for yourself:
1- You do not take suggestions from your bridal party:
Despite paying for their outfits and being there for helping you out, your bridal party seems to have lost interest for you have been ignoring all their suggestions. Its a team and you need to let them pick the colors too; yes it is your wedding but the bridal party also needs a say at least in deciding some details for the wedding
2- All your time is with your wedding planner and not fiance:
It is okay to spend time with wedding planner too, but not all your time. Eventually it is the two of you, who would spend the rest of their lives together. You must make sure to sneak those mushy and lovely moments together and add to your memoirs from wedding planning. Who remembers what the wedding planner said or did; at the end it is how the two of you were bonded together and meant to be
3- You just can’t keep calm and stay in boundaries, for everyone else specially the mothers sharing their bridal details is getting on your nerves. And you won’t take it the next time your mom said how she made her wedding gown, as you are done with that. But believe when we say, this is just normal and do not let the stress take on your temperament
4- You just can’t accept the color choices your fiance picked for wedding cards:
All your efforts in making your wedding invites perfect seem to fade for you. As your color choice and your fiance’s color choice won’t match. And here you being a bridezilla are not ready to take it. Even to the level of fighting with him
5- You are more angry than ever:
Even small details can make you angry, and you feel everyone else is being a jerk for they are just not ready to let you be. Well, you may not be behaving at best of your self and you are definitely worked up.
6- You’r bridesmaids are ignoring your calls:
Now that you are totally fussy and want to have 2 3 weekly meetings with your bridesmaids for discussing the details. They are already ignoring you. They may have been your BFF’s but now they are ready to dump you and even the wedding for that matter
7- The details on photography is taking every moment of your time:
You are so acting up that how you would pose and how the capture would be is all you think. You have been after your wedding photographers life and he seems to show less interest despite getting paid from you
8- You don’t have time for anyone:
Everyone around seems to try and talk to you but you don’t have time for anyone. You do not take calls of your close friends or colleagues and you are definitely not with your fiance all the time
9- You do not go for personal relaxation and me time:
While a wedding is just around the corner and you are up with all wedding plans, but you do not seem to go for the things which are special for you. Say a movie night with your fiance, drinks and dance nights on weekends, spa, and massages for your body, yoga or walks are not happening and you have no time for your hobbies which used to be your daily dose to maintaining your sanity.
10- Your wedding registry is more than the college tuition:
All you have planned for the wedding registry is just too much for the guests and you just don’t seem to understand it yet. Yes, each bride wants everything for a happy married life but that doe not mean a bride needs so many luxuries as soon as she vows.
11- You have been after your parents for more finances:
Despite your parents having put in all their savings, you are still after them for more. You do not understand their situation and are being indifferent to it. You are sure a bridezilla but you also have become dry emotionally.
12- Every conversation you have lately ends up being about weddings:
Even ordering at a restaurant ends up with you detailing your wedding details to the waiter. And somehow they all have heard it gazillion times already
13- You Still Can’t Get Over the Seating Plan:
Every now and then you would pick up the seating organization and keep changing it. Despite multiple trial, you don’t seem to be satisfied with the seating arrangement.
14- You have done dress trials over 20 times and still want to do more:
Your bridal outfit is ready and you have tried it over 20 times already. You still dress in it everytime a friend visits or bridal party come in. You can not seem to be happy with the outfit as you keep trying to find something off in it
15- You do not let others help you despite having a crunch of time:
Your sister in law, brother in law and other relatives are offering their services but you do not trust them. All you have to say is that you will do it or it is done when nothing really has begun yet. You are fussy and you can not let them help you
16- You start finding faults in things already done:
So here after doing 50-60% of your wedding planning, you start with your fault finding sessions. And end up practically nothing being done yet.
17- Wedding now becomes a blame game for you:
The wedding is a blame game for you now for you have started finding faults in everything and you name them to either your bridal party or your fiance
18- You can not let your fiance have his own time with bachelors party:
You do not trust him even at this time and you are in constant agony over what if he gets too drunk or involves with a stripper or something weird. You are impulsive and you can not let him enjoy his own wedding
19- Even simple adjustments are hara-kiri for you:
Your caterer had to change this dessert at the last minute or the flowers were changed for some reason or anything which was substituted makes you angry and impulsive. You are too stressed over these simple issues and show temper tantrums all the time
20- You have started to get panicky far more than ever:
The mild panic attacks are now a common thing for you and you seem to have lost your sanity already. You are too worried how everything will take place and are in constant oscillation between tasks done and not done.
21- Your obsession with your own self it reaching altogether higher levels now:
All you think about these days is just yourself. You are too obsessed about your own thing and you have completely ignored your fiance and bridal party. You do not seem to care enough how they would look or be, and how they wish for details here. You have become a bridezilla and the worst version of yourself already.
Now that you have seen these signs that you are turning into bridezilla, it is time to know how to stop behaving like one and maintain your calm. If you proceed with some of the given below, you sure will win back all your friends and family members for a wonderful wedding celebration:
- Be sure to have ample time for everything when planning your wedding, so that you do not have the last moment rush
- Divide each task among your friends and family, also trust that they would accomplish it well.
Image Source: elconresort.com - Stay up with your yoga and workout routine, you don’t want to look anything less than stunning.
- Take time outs with your fiance every day. This is not just your wedding but for the two of you. And you need to have everything as romantic and passionate even now, as you fantasize it post marriage
- Make sure to talk to your parents as a little girl who needs to be their princess as always. Be patient even when you hear ‘your mom being a bride details’ for the Nth time.
Image Source: byronwomensretreat.com.au - Go for me times at least half an hour to one hour a day. A walk or a drink with just self is relaxing and unwinding which will prevent you from getting tensed
- Get your beauty sleep in addition to some catnaps during the day or we say power naps.
- Do not let the stress get into your head. Just remember everyone goes through it and you just need to keep calm.
- Stick to a balanced diet and avoid too much caffeine and alcohol as you need to stay health, fit and pretty too. Too much caffeine dried your body and makes you tensed too. Also, alcohol dehydrates your body thus causing functional damage to you
Image Source: psychologies.co.uk - Exercise and go gymming to unwind. As working out is the best stress buster and you need to be in shape too, to fin in your wonderful outfits you already picked
- Drink a lot of water, as it keeps your body hydrated and free from stress
The above steps must be followed all through your bridal preparation journey, and not as and when you see the warning signs that you are turning bridezilla. These will help you cope up with the stress and challenges all the way.
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