“Marriages are made in heaven” and it ironic that the same marriages that are made in heaven do not last on earth, marriages do not die a natural death but the two people in that marriage put an end to the relationship. Sadly, we may not even realize when that marriage is over but our behaviour, conscious and sub-conscious actions will say it all.
There are different kind of broken marriages these days, in some cases the couple realize that they need to go their ways and do it peacefully, while some do not even realize that their marriage is over and they carry the tag of a marriage that has no meaning left. It is not a great feeling when you are in love with your spouse and you know that nothing is left.
This article aims at pointing at the signs that your marriage is over. It is necessary to face the reality and accordingly reconcile yourself or find a way to re-work on your marriage in order to bind back your bond that has fallen apart, if that is what the two of you want.
Signs That Your Marriage Is Over
No verbal declaration can justify enough that your marriage is over. Just like how actions speak louder than words, the same goes with the noise in our silent marriage.
You would have never even imagined or thought that you would be falling apart from that marriage for whatsoever reasons. It is no doubt tough to digest it. But if that’s what reality calls for.
Signs will not “say” but they will loudly indicate through “actions” that your marriage is over. Do not ignore those signs, work on it right then. You need to be brave and accept whatever is in store for both of you but do not let go or ignore those signs.
These signs could possibly be some of those that clearly state a broken marriage.
Sign No 1 – When You Live Like Two Different Planets Adjusting In One
Even the couples who are all the time in love and are the best companions at some point have their bad time and adjust with each other. The existence of two people sharing a life together is about more or less making adjustments.
However, when the two of you are entirely different and you do not see even one positive point reason to adjust with each other, maybe you have tried your best or you are just not willing to give it a shot then it is a sign that your marriage is over. Hope and a two-sided effort is a must in the relationship.
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Sign No 2 – When You Find Love Outside Your Marriage
People falling in love and falling out of love is a reality. There are xyz reasons to why this happens, everyone is in search of filling their empty space because each one has a different way of being happy and there is no wrong in doing that.
That being said, if you are doing it while cheating another person that is totally wrong. If you think your partner or you do not seem to be in love with each other and you find that special solace in a third person it means your marriage is over or probably its time to talk about it.
Sign No 3 – When Your Partners Presence And Absence Does Not Seem To Bother You
Now, you would have to go deep to understand this sign and at the same time, you cannot afford to misunderstand it. You might be a busy person and so is your partner which is why you guys never realize the presence or absence of each other. This is one part of it. That being said, if you guys do not miss each other at all, if you are happier living without each other and if in the presence of each other you get no happiness or do not feel nice or it does not even bother you even a little, then it is a clear sign that you have gone apart.
Sign No 4 – You Don’t Feel It Necessary To Share Anything With Your Partner
When we are the happiest or feel low we want to go and cry or laugh to your loved ones, its human nature. You have to consider this a sign of the end to your marriage when you do not feel it necessary to share your pain, happiness and plans about the future with your partner.
If at all you begin to feel like he or she is a complete stranger and you think that your decision of not sharing with your partner is the best thing then your relationship is on strings and from there on you would have to take a call. As it is not good to feel it unimportant to share anything with your partner.
Sign No 5 – When You Escape Being Around Your Partner
When do we ignore or get away from people, when we do not want them around or we prefer to keep our distance with those people. Isn’t it? If you think you or your partner is always finding excuses to sit and spend time together and without a genuine reason wants to be away or you want to be away from that person it means there is a blank space and something is not right. Could be that you guys have a temporary bad phase but if it continues then it is not healthy in your marriage.
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Sign No 6 – Faults Are All You See
When we love our people despite their hundred faults we still forgive them and start over fresh. When you notice that your partner and you have lost the capacity of seeing the good in each other and you wait for a chance to point out at each other or rather you make up reasons to point out then it means you have started to dislike each other or it could be that you are taken for granted. Do not just let this sign be, it is not a good sign that you forget to appreciate each other and you just focus on the unnecessary loopholes.
Sign No 7 – When You Hide Things From Each Other
When transparency loses its place in your relationship and the two of you have started to conceal things from each other, be it with what is happening in your personal or professional life and when you are choosy about what to say and not say to each other it means that your marriage does not have loyalty left in it. A marriage without loyalty cannot last long.
Sign No 8 – When There Is No Place For Attraction
In a marriage where the two people are heels over in love with each other no matter how much time has gone by and despite how much ever distance comes if you still feel the same love and attraction for your partner physically and mentally it means you are in a safe zone and the two of you have the striking factor still.
On the contrary, if the two of you do not feel the butterflies for each other or you have stopped having sex and you do not feel like. There is a possibility that this is not a good sign and there is a scope of re-looking at the marriage.
Sign No 9 – The Element Of Peace Has Vanished
Fighting and disagreements are a part and parcel of marriage. It is fine until it does not crossbows. When the two of you have forgotten how to talk and you only yell at each other, when either of you or one of you does not want to initiate solving a problem, when the cold war and violent war between the two of you makes no difference to either of you and you have forgotten the meaning of peace in your relationship, it is absolutely problematic.
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Sign No 10 – When Pain Takes Over
There comes a point in a disturbing relationship wherein either of you or both of you just experience disappointment and pain so much that you do not want to live with each other under one roof because of being abused, disrespected and criticized. There is not a single positive side to your relationship.
When either of you has lost respect for each other and cannot even stand the idea of being together under one roof, it is a clear sign that your marriage has come to an end. If you have tried a lot and you still see no change in things then it is good to accept it and move on.
What To Do Before Making A Major Decision In Your Marriage
Not all the times that you think is the end of a story, is truly the end. It is not wise to leave a marriage for a few faults unless they are a few. That being said, no matter how small or big your issues are, it is always good to take decisions by calming down, considering the pros and cons and giving it your last try. Here is what you should think of before calling it off.
1. Understand What You Feel
Admitting or accepting that your marriage is over might be tough for you. Observe how you feel, is it making a difference to you or are you okay with it? And if you are not okay with it then do not run away from what you feel, just understand what is in your head so that you can accordingly pacify yourself.
2. Talk to Yourself
You are the best judge and only your heart truly knows what is it that you want and whether or not you are capable of solving your problems. If you see a scope of making things better, then just sit and sort it out. Do not complicate it!
3. Consider Your Partners View Point
It is not alone your decision to save or leave the marriage, you should talk to your partner and get to know what is it that he/she wants. Understand what is it that your partner is upset with, see if you both want to work on the marriage.
4. Talk To Your People About It
Sometimes we need a sense of judgement to get clarity on our decisions. Talk to your parents and the people who have more experience of a relationship and get to know from them of what is the best thing you can do for your marriage.
5. Work On It Only If It Is Worth A Try
Yes, you must consider giving your relationship one chance at the same time you cannot get emotional about it. Get logic and emotions both into the picture and understand if it is worth giving it a chance or not. You would know it better, sometimes the best thing to do is just walk away from a relationship that will give you nothing but sorrow. Therefore, then taking all the sorrow it is better to call it off.
6. Don’t Spoil It In The End
It is always good to make peace with even the worst of times. It is any day good to maintain cordial relationships because the world is a small place and you might face each other tomorrow, why hold grudges or live with a vengeance. Cope up with a finished marriage by ending it on a good note.
Just be sure that you are doing the right thing and do not force any relationship. It is easy to talk about it, to be going through it is extremely painful. You got to be sensitive when it comes to how your kids are going to take it after you part ways.
Give it some time and your kids will be fine with it gradually. You would have to discuss with your partner about how you want to put it across to your kid. Deal this with maturity and patience.
In conclusion, marriage getting over is not less than a tragedy but not that tragic for someone to be stuck at it and not accept that the marriage is over. The best ways to make yourself accept the end of your marriage is by giving yourself a pep talk. You would have to look at the positive in it, think that this happened for the best of the two of you, think that your partner and you both of you are away from drama and accept it as learning in life.
No marriage is a bed of roses, you either make it or break it, it all depends on the couple.
